What I Learned About Self-Love On Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I intended to share a Valentine’s themed blog with you today. 

I was going to talk about how, as women, we work hard to ensure celebrations are special for others but don’t often think to do something lovely for ourselves.

I was going to tell you to remember yourself on Valentine’s Day. To practice a little self-love by carving out some time in your day to do something just for you – splurge on your favourite latte, treat yourself to a new book, or maybe go for a quiet walk…alone or with the dog.

The thing is, I didn’t have time to write it. 

This week has been really chaotic for me. The teachers are on strike, and the kids have been home. I’m working on an online course while trying to keep up with my volunteer commitments. I’ve overbooked myself with appointments and haven’t had time to tidy up or cook meals, let alone sit down and write a blog.

It’s been on my mind all week. 

And, old patterns of self-talk have been creeping in:

You could have stayed up late to get it done.

If you’d started last week, you wouldn’t feel so stressed.

If you’d organize your schedule better, you would have found time.

You’re too scattered and need to focus. 

I don’t know about you, but when negative thoughts start swirling, I feel worse and can’t accomplish anything.

Driving home from a meeting this afternoon, I decided to let it all go. Let go of the blog, let go of the negative self-talk, let go of trying to keep up, and give myself a break.

I felt instant relief. 

I could breathe. My body relaxed, and I felt calm.

And that’s when I realized something.

Self-love isn’t just about doing something special for yourself from time to time (although that is definitely important and should not be ignored!).

Self-love is about a whole lot more. 


Giving yourself a break from trying to keep up with expectations (yours and others).

Allowing yourself to be imperfect.

Accepting that you can’t do it all.

Treating yourself with kindness.

Letting go of your inner critic.

I believe that’s what self-love is all about. 

That’s because I’m learning that self-love is really about practicing self-acceptance, understanding, and compassion.

That doesn’t mean I won’t be treating myself to a latte as a special Valentine’s treat. I plan on it! But I’m going to try to remember more often to give myself grace and space to be my imperfect self.

That sounds like a good dose of self-love to me! 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

You’re wonderful.